Have you ever wanted to achieve a goal like maybe lose weight, quit an addiction or whatever the goal was, and you found yourself already making visible progress towards achieving the goal but after some point, the amount of efforts you were putting in towards achieving that goal became too burdensome and as a result, the goal didn’t seem appealing to you anymore so, you had to quit?
Or you once realized that there was something you would have loved to add into or remove from your life and you made it your goal to get it done but during the initial phase of planning and sorting things out, you suddenly lost interest in achieving the goal because you felt it would be too burdensome for you to do it?
If you’ve ever found yourself in any of those 2 situations above, that means you were caught up in what I love to call The Fear Of Continuity.
The Fear Of Continuity is that thought you have, when you feel that you won’t be able to sustain what you’re currently doing to achieve your goal, over a long period of time.
From experience, I’ve discovered that The Fear Of Continuity is one of the most common factors what makes majority of the people unable to achieve their goal most of the time. So, In this post, I will be explaining how you can eliminate this fear from your mind.
The reason this has been happening to you without your knowledge is because it is a subconscious response that the mind uses to avoid stress or certain situations that it perceives to be stressful.
If for instance, you made it your goal to quit smoking, your mind will quickly sum up the negatives of achieving that goal to be something like this:
- I will forever have to starve myself off smoking,
- I won’t be able to easily mingle with all my friends that smoke anymore,
- I don’t think smoking is bad at all…
and so on.
Such negative thoughts can either creep in before you’ve even started working towards achieving the goal or while you’re already halfway into achieving it.
And once you start having this fear of continuity internally, the things that used to motivate you towards achieving that goal will start meaning lesser and lesser to you by each passing day and you will find yourself giving up on the goal in no time.
So how can we deal with this Fear Of Continuity whenever it arises to kill our moral?
Dealing With The Fear
In my journey towards self-improvement, I’ve found 3 habits to be very effective in helping me get rid of this Fear Of Continuity syndrome whenever it seems to be stemming up in any goal that I’ve set for myself, and I will be sharing them with you below.
- Consciously Pin-Point The Fears
If at anytime, you start having doubts whether or not you might be able to continue working on the routines that you’re applying to achieve the goal, relax a bit and carefully mark out those negative aspect of achieving the goal and also, the positives too. Remember one of my recent blog post on The Benefits Of Keeping Your Personal Journal. This is one of those situations where you would find a Journal helpful.
Maybe your goal is to lose weight and your Fear Of Continuity is that you might not be able to continue with the 1-mile-trek daily routine that you’ve been doing so far.
You can simply make a quick note like this:
The stress of having to trek 1 mile every day is too much
But it has helped me shred 7 pounds so far and I hate being called “Fat”,
The weight loss illustration is just an example, you can apply this to any other thing you have set as a goal for yourself.
After making a note of both the negatives and positives, you should now weigh those negatives against the positives and see if it is a goal that you truly need to achieve.
If after you weigh the negatives against the positives, you find out that it is a goal that you really need to achieve, then start working on uprooting those negatives.
Uprooting here means that you either start working on ways to ease the work you’ve been putting in towards achieving that goal or you can simply decide to accept those negatives and learn to gradually start living with them as part of your being.
For instance, instead of having to create a daily schedule for yourself to walk for 1 mile everyday as part of your weight loss routines, you can figure out where to start parking your car halfway on your way to work everyday, and trekking the remaining half.
The above is just an example that explains how you can simplify your goal-achievement efforts and make them blend into your daily lifestyle that you have to do everyday without having to think twice about it, rather than creating a separate schedule out of your normal activities that will always demand willpower in order for you to be able to make it work.
There are often unexpected side effects that you may not be aware of consciously, but subconsciously they can be enough to prevent you from taking committed action towards achieving that goal.
Learning to figure out each of those side effects is a good step towards becoming the proactive person that always get to achieve their goals no matter what.
Itâ€™s rare that a goal is all roses. Success requires change, and change has both positive and negative consequences. Often while people claim to want to succeed at something, the reality is that the negatives outweigh the positives for them. But one way to overcome this problem is to consciously think about what those negatives are, and then uproot them one at a time.
Hope you found this post helpful? If yes, then I bet you would also love to read both of these my other posts below .
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