The Only Benefits You Derive From Arguing

Benefits You Derive From Arguing First off, I’d like to clarify that the form of “arguing” I’m referring to in this post are those situation where we find ourself trying to shove down our own ideas and beliefs into someone else’s throat just because we believe ourself to be right and the person we’re confronting is the wrong one, resulting in us trying to tongue-force the person into subscribing to our own ideas/beliefs through arguing with them.

There is no point in arguing with people who already have their minds made up. It takes up your time and energy and doesn’t produce any tangible results. It ends up with you getting angry, trying to convince someone of something that truly doesn’t matter at all.

But I don’t want people to think I’m such and such!

Why? How does you taking time from your life to pander to other people make any difference. People who are prone to arguing and name-calling have a very hard time understanding anything. No matter what you say they are going to think whatever they want to think. No matter how much you argue and pander you can’t change someone who has their mind made up. Just let people think whatever they want and go on with your life.

We’re scared of words for no reason. We argue against words like it changes anything or makes any difference. It doesn’t make any difference. They’re just words. Sometimes they have a basis in reality, sometimes they don’t. You can argue for or against the words as long as you want but it changes nothing about you as a person.

Winning an argument is always tempting though. Who doesn’t want to be right? OR Have the last word? OR Be the meanest and sharpest and smartest with their words?


Trying to control another person’s opinion oversteps both their boundaries and yours Arguing has one objective: TO CONTROL

You don’t want others controlling you. And you don’t want to control others. That’s lose-lose for everyone.

One other thing you must realize before getting into your next argument, is the fact that you can never technically “win”an argument. Presidential debates stir up the media, and people love to vote on which candidate performed better. But in the end, neither candidate wins — because there are no judges, no standards, no rules. The country may have voted in one candidate’s favor — but loyal supporters of the opponent will hold strongly to their version of how victory went down. So when you argue with someone and you think you can win or that you have won… think about it more carefully. Even if you make better points and counter each of theirs — that doesn’t mean you’ll convince them that you won. More likely, it means that they’ll get even more upset because you shut them down, or worse — they’ll avoid you, resent you, or be passive aggressive in revenge.

Time is precious. Don’t waste it arguing. Especially with people who aren’t worth a second of your time.

Have a great day and if you like this post, don’t forget to check out any of these my other posts below:

Daniel Uyi.




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The older I get the more I realize that most arguments get me nowhere. It is possible to have a calm discussion- but if the other person doesn’t want to it isn’t even worth it to start yelling and trying to make my point heard. :)

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